Are You a Perfectionist?

Almost everyone pursues perfection – doing the best job you can, setting goals and working hard to reach them, maintaining high standards. But perfectionism isn’t aboutany of this. Perfectionism is a long, maddening drive down a never-ending road for flawlessness; it provides no rest stops for mistakes, personal limitations or the changing of minds.

Perfectionism can cause feelings of anxiety, fear, and self-doubt; it can cripple self esteem,stifle creativity, and put a stumbling block in the way of intimate friendships and love relationships. Ultimately, it can create or aggravate illnesses such as eating disorders, manic-depressive mood disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder and substance abuse.

Everybody has some “built-in” perfectionism, especially in our achievement-oriented, competitive culture.

Complete this questionnaire to discover how perfectionistic you are.
o I never do anything halfway; it’s all or nothing for me. Every time.
o People who do things halfway make me angry or disgust me.
o I believe there’s a certain way to do things and they should always be done that way.
o I get angry or defensive when I make mistakes. I hate to make them.
o I often procrastinate on starting projects. I seldom meet deadlines. Or if I do, I kill myself meeting them.
o I feel humiliated when things aren’t perfect.
o I don’t like to admit not knowing how to do something or to being a beginner. If I can’t do something well, I won’t do it.
o People say I expect too much of myself. Or of them.
o In my family, you could never completely measure up to expectations.
o I’m hard on myself when I lose, even if it’s only a friendly game or contest.
o I often withdraw from others and from group activities.
o I don’t think work should be fun or pleasurable.
o Even when I accomplish something, I feel let down or empty.
o I criticize myself and others excessively.
o I like to be in control; if I can’t be in control then I won’t participate.
o No matter how much I have done, there’s always more I could do.
o I don’t delegate often and when I do, I always double-check to make sure the job is done right. It never is.
o I believe it is possible to do something perfectly and if I keep at it, I can do it perfectly.
o Forgetting and forgiving is not something I do easily or well.

There is a difference between excellence and perfection. Striving to be really good isexcellence; trying to be flawless is perfectionism. If you’re concerned about yourperfectionist behavior, don’t hesitate to call.