A great philosopher once said, “Trying to understand women is like trying to smell the color nine.” Clearly, this “great philosopher” did not have a very good teacher. We truly can understand each other if we have great guides. There are few who are better than John Gottman and his associates. This book is based on 40 years of scientific study, much of it gathered by Gottman and his team in his “Love Lab” at the University of Washington. It is written primarily for men because the research suggests that it is the man in a relationship who wields the most influence to make it great or screw it up beyond repair. So, men…depending upon your level of motivation, that is either bad news or outstanding news! I am hoping it will be the latter.